Celebrating Valentine’s Day in a New Relationship

Valentine’s Day is exciting for couples who have been together for ages and want to up the romance ante, but for those navigating the scary world of a new relationship it can be more stressful than enjoyable. If you’ve just begun dating someone exclusively and you’re unsure of how to approach the lover’s holiday, never fear. You’re not alone, and we’ve come up with a list of the perfect ways to breach the subject and make sure the both of you enjoy the occasion to the fullest.

Talk About It

You’re not going to get anywhere in your relationship if you don’t talk about things, so use Valentine’s Day plans as practice if you’re thinking you’re in this bad boy for the long haul. A non-direct approach is probably your best bet, and you can casually bring up the holiday—just make sure you do it with no expectations. If your special someone is resistant, then don’t force the issue. There’s a ton of pressure around this occasion, especially for the fellas in a relationship, so take it easy and don’t make what’s supposed to be an enjoyable celebration become a source of anxiety.

Rein in Your Expectations

Don’t expect too much out of February 14th. Even if the occasion doesn’t end in declarations of undying love, you can still have an amazing time and build further on your budding relationship. New relationships can be fragile, and forcing yourself and someone else to put too much emphasis on this holiday can cause permanent damage. Work under the impression that it’s just another day, and follow the lead of your partner. No expectations means you can’t be disappointed, and gives you the potential of being pleasantly surprised.

If You’re Not Celebrating Together

If your partner is resistant and has actively avoided making plans with you on February 14th, cut your losses and make a new plan. There’s no need to wallow at home because there are plenty of people you can revel with. Valentine’s Day is supposed to be about celebrating love, so look around at all the wonderful people in your life and make sure they know how much you cherish them. Call your parents, hang out with other single friends, and consider how lucky you are to be surrounded by the awesome folks in your life. Basing your happiness on a single person is unhealthy, and gaining a bit of perspective can do you wonders every day of the year, not just Valentine’s Day.

If You Are Celebrating the Evening

If you and your sweetheart have discussed it and you’re ready to spend the evening celebrating your new relationship, try something out of the box. Skip the tired old dinner date and cook delicious food for each other at home. Light some candles, put on some mood music, and wine and dine without fighting crowds and paying ridiculous prices. If the two of you aren’t chef aficionados, consider ordering in from Eat24hours.com. You can stay in your jammies and make the evening a more casual affair, or go full in and dress up to the nines—just make sure both of you are on the same page. Keeping the holiday low-stress will be easier on both of you, and will ensure this holiday doesn’t serve as a road bump in your growing bond.

Your Gifting Options

Figuring out what to give your new sweetheart requires you to master a delicate balance. You don’t want to gift something that makes it seem like you don’t care, and you also don’t want to overdo it and scare them off. Set a price limit for yourself, and go thoughtful instead of expensive. One easy way to impress? Get something personalized. It shows you put in a bit of effort but it’s also not going to break the bank and have them running for the hills. You can also consider an “experience gift”, like tickets to a concert, sports game, or similar event—just make sure it’s happening in upcoming weeks, as planning something months down the road is jumping the gun a bit especially if you’ve only been dating a few weeks or months.

Don’t stress yourself out about a holiday that’s mean to be a celebration of love. Use these tips with your special someone and make it a night to remember.

About The Author

Aleksandar Tomovic
Editor in Chief

French photographer (of Serbian Origins) lives and works in Los Angeles. Known for his celebrity fashion editorials and recognized around the world for his european esthetics and american efficiency.

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